Dating for 13 year olds
She’s absolutely mortified, of course, by my presence.Will insisting on “walk thru” every few minutes make them more secretive and sneaky?Last week my 13-year-old son came into my room, laid next to me on my bed and placed his head on my shoulder. I didn’t want him to answer the question, but to just think about it and pay attention to their interactions at school.This is usually what he does when he wants something, so I was preparing myself for either of these questions: I was preparing myself to say no to whatever request he was about to ask. If he felt that there was something more there, then maybe he should simply ask her to the movies and see what she says.One son was dating a girl for a short time who said that for Christmas she didn’t want a present. Yes, that means what you think it can not possibly mean. In talking with my friends who are also mothers of teenage boys, this is not uncommon.After I recovered from my shock and fantasies of driving over to her house and breaking both of her legs in the hopes that she’d be encased in a full body cast and therefore desiring a more appropriate present, my son revealed that he just wasn’t interested in doing that with her. Every single one of them has stories of girls being the pushy and demanding ones, not just in a sexual way, but in a controlling, bordering on stalking way. My son called her when we got home and “broke up” with her.I don't know what I think the "right" age is to start dating, but I know for me it's not 13! Thanks for all the great responses - I appreciated those that disagreed with me as much as those that agreed.The double date did not happen, and the stares & silence ended the next day. She will not want to wait two more years (or 3, whatever you are planning) to single date. Come in and out of the family room during their time together.
Collins and Steele taught me about lust, love and the dangers that could arise from both. Now that I’m the parent of a teenager, I give him the advice I wish I had received when I was his age. I asked him if there were any signs that she may be interested in more than a friendship, because sometimes people can misinterpret signals.
One mother told me of the explicit text messages her son was receiving from a girl at all hours of the night. He basically told her that she was not nice and he didn’t really like her anymore. I have been closely monitoring to see if Glenn continues her controlling and mean ways.
Admittedly I am not friends with anyone who has teenage girls, for all I know they see boys behaving in the exact same manner. I would not tolerate my own children talking to me in such a disrespectful manner and I certainly would not take it from one of their friends. Then I ignored the next 8 calls from her as we drove the 2 miles home. So far my son says she isn’t bothering him and the phone records support this.
Sometimes I wish someone actually sat me down as a kid and talked to me about dating and relationships. And the little boys in middle school were perverts and spent their free time trying to touch on girls’ butts.
I don’t ever recall talking to either parent about these subjects, but I did hear “You better not come home knocked up.” So yeah, I knew not to get pregnant, but I didn’t actually know how one “got pregnant,” if that makes any sense. The last boy who attempted to cop a feel in the 8th grade ended up with a black eye.